In the journey of life, everyone has a crucial duty to fulfill – the duty of “desire”. Love reigns supreme among our deepest desires. However, the challenge lies because most individuals struggle to grasp the true essence of love. Often, love is mistaken for mere infatuation, romantic, blissful feeling, fleeting attraction, comfortable companionship, surface-level compatibility, or a false sense of security. But in reality, love is a complex tapestry woven from threads of understanding, trust, support, compassion, selflessness, communication, and genuine connection. However, not all relationships labeled as love are love.
Acknowledging that not all relationships or emotions labeled as love are healthy or genuine is crucial. Sometimes, people can misconstrue or manipulate love, leading to toxic dynamics and emotional harm. It’s crucial to distinguish between true, nurturing love and codependent relationships, obsession, or possessiveness. Relationships can masquerade as love, but lack the genuine qualities of mutual respect, trust, and emotional safety. The belief of love is complex and can uplift or mislead us. By understanding its true essence, healthier relationship can build based on respect and emotional well-being.
Love experiences often hurt and lead people to perceive love as the most painful kind of suffering. Divorce or infidelity in parents or partners, especially during childhood, can teach individuals to become independent and avoid love for the rest of their lives. An independent person will fight to defend their independence from a loving bonding relationship. They will start fights, commit infidelity, and do whatever it takes to maintain that same habitual level as in childhood. This self-reliance may cause a lack of authentic connections, leading to personal vulnerabilities and even self-harm. The genuine bond of love entails a profound emotional connection that surpasses shallow and harmful desires, equipping individuals with the courage and endurance to overcome any challenges in their journey.
Love can take many forms, from the love between family members to the love shared between friends or even the love for a pet, requiring acceptance, understanding, and support. Most married couples do not experience true love. They mistake infatuation for love or are both happy without love. These couples rarely witnessed true, affectionate relationships between their parents while growing up. Many individuals grew up in broken families with parents who were unfaithful, single, always preoccupied with work, content without genuine love, and some even had abusive parents. Many people do not know how to love because of a lack of exposure during childhood. The discomfort felt by others who do not want love is an emotional distress caused by a past event, often experienced during childhood, such as a divorce.
Love is the Spirit of God, which takes many reincarnations to learn, and feel all the time with no desires. People have many desires that need to be fulfilled in order to not reincarnate anymore. Much like attachments and desires, emotions can play a significant role in shaping one’s experiences, relationships, and goals in fulfilling one’s desires. People must fulfill their desires without hurting themselves or others to complete their spiritual journey. Learning to become loving without feeling bored or overwhelmed developing into one with Spirit, “Spirits of Light,” not reincarnating anymore.
1 John 4:7 Beloved, let us love one another: for love is of God; and every one that loveth is born of God, and knoweth God. 1 John 4:8 He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love. 1 John 4:16 And we have known and believed the love that God hath to us. God is love; and he that dwelleth in love dwelleth in God, and God in him. 1 John 4:20 If a man say, I love God, and hateth his brother, he is a liar: for he that loveth not his brother whom he hath seen, how can he love God whom he hath not seen? Romans 13:10 Love worketh no ill to his neighbor: therefore love is the fulfilling of the law.
